Posted by Dinah on March 22, 2005, at 18:30:05
I really do want to improve my marriage. And part of that, on my end, is increasing physical intimacy.
Knowing how I feel about intercourse, and also knowing that I want to do what's right in a marriage, my therapist has suggested that regularly facilitating release for my husband will help him feel cared for, while avoiding intercourse.
But I don't know. It seems to me that the less I avoid the issue, the more likely it is that the depth of my aversion is going to come across, even to my less than perceptive husband. Because, to me, kissing and being touched in a moving motion are worse than intercourse. Ok now worse, but just as bad.
I dunno what the right thing to do is.