Posted by inthegloaming on May 5, 2007, at 21:16:29
In reply to Re: Sex again. Sigh. » Dinah, posted by LlurpsieBlossom on January 6, 2007, at 19:30:23
> 2. figure out the part that is the scariest. is it the idea? the beginning? the nudity? the goofy noises? certain moves? the end?
> well, the important thing is that this is not rocket science. its a very goofy thing and is the adult equivalent of little kids smearing poop on the wall. (unless youre anal retentive, that is...)
Just wanted to say how much your post meant to me. I just read it now and it's made me feel so much better.
I'm currently battling a sex-phobia I've had for many years, one that's kept me out of relationships and out of the realm of sexual experiences with others. I say I'm currently battling it because I've met a wonderful, wonderful woman who is kind and sweet and silly and beautiful and real and I want very much to be in an intimate relationship with her but cannot get over my fear of sex. I guess it stems from a lot of things--poor body image, fear of commitment, fear of myself--but the point is that its here and i don't want it to be. I want it out of my life and, most importantly, out of the bedroom.
Maintaining that it's something kind of goofy has always helped me with things. That sex can be fun and playful is a great thing to hear and to have affirmed. That it's not rocket science is too. All day long we're fed images of how we're supposed to look and what we should find sexy and how we should have sex and what it should look/sound/feel like, where we should do it and blah blah blah... it's all a bunch of BS and no matter how obvious that sounds, it's hard to get away from when it's so much a part of our lives.
anyway, just wanted to say how great it was to read what you wrote. your T gives great advice and you're awesome for sharing it.