Posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 18:05:09
In reply to Re: Sex again. Sigh. (**somewhat graphic**) » Dinah, posted by Tamar on April 25, 2005, at 13:18:11
Thank you Tamar. It was very generous of you to share something so intimate.
I am going to save your post, because I think it's a very important one. And I'll keep it in the back of my mind as I work on step one. Because to truly want to enjoy sex would be a very big first step for me. My therapist and I were sort of talking about this. I don't think I told him, but I was thinking to me that trying to enjoy sex *feels* like I'm participating in violating myself. I know that's not true. But I have to get over that feeling somehow. And I'm not sure how much I want my therapist to participate in that process because I'm sure to resent him for participating in my violation as well.
Sigh.
I have a long way to go.
I don't think it was too regimented at all. A big campaign needs a plan. Just going with the flow sure wouldn't work for me.
You also show your generosity by working so hard to give your husband the pleasure of wanting him. That is such a beautiful thing. I honor you for that.
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