Posted by Tamar on April 27, 2005, at 16:19:35
In reply to Re: Sex again. Sigh. (**somewhat graphic**) » Tamar, posted by annierose on April 26, 2005, at 19:12:37
> I understand all of your steps, they make perfect sense. Did you figure this out on your own? or did you work on them with your T?
I found it very difficult to talk to my T about it, so I pretty much figured it out on my own but I talked very generally about it with him. I didn’t exactly go through my plan with him, but we talked most weeks about how sex was going, and the work I did in therapy helped me to adjust things in my bedroom!
> I talked about sex today in therapy. She made an interesting obversation. In general, I flinch when I am touched. And she said, when you come to therapy, it is like being touched. And for me, it is. I can't explain it.
That is interesting. Does therapy reach the same vulnerabilities or triggers that physical touch reaches?
> But I don't know how to work on this in my marriage. Your post gives me something to think about, and a starting point.I think if you can keep talking about it to your T it should help a lot. It’s difficult but the rewards are worth it.
Tamar
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