Posted by Tamar on April 27, 2005, at 12:52:29
In reply to Re: Sex again. Sigh. (**somewhat graphic**) » Tamar, posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 18:05:09
> I was thinking to me that trying to enjoy sex *feels* like I'm participating in violating myself. I know that's not true. But I have to get over that feeling somehow. And I'm not sure how much I want my therapist to participate in that process because I'm sure to resent him for participating in my violation as well.
Yes, that makes sense. Would it be possible to talk about that feeling very theoretically with your T, before you actually start trying to enjoy sex? I think his role in it would be crucial since you don’t want to talk to your husband.
> I have a long way to go.
One step at a time. If and when you want to. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do. However, the courage you’ve shown in posting about it and thinking about it is already progress, isn’t it?
I saw your post about sexual anorexia and it sounds like an interesting theory, although when I read further online I was a little unconvinced by the idea of a twelve step approach. Mind you, I haven’t read any detail, so maybe it will be helpful. I hope so.