Posted by gardenergirl on September 21, 2005, at 23:57:52
In reply to Re: My T. is Too Important To Me » Damos, posted by 10derHeart on September 21, 2005, at 12:24:21
> In the sense, he doesn't appreciate the depth of things, the extent to which I *use* the relationship with him to try to fulfill all sorts of needs.
You know, I don't know that my T "got this" with me, either. I wonder if it's a defense for the T in order to avoid dealing with how that might feel for them to mean so much? Just speculating.
>Relating to my T. and my Babble friends are it in my life, really. I have these other woman friends, but it stays superficial, and I can't see that changing.
I'm glad you're here. And I think this medium sort of allows for more intimacy in posting because it's not face to face and it's fairly anonymous.
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> I don't know. Probably I'm overreacting, seeing myself too sharply through the "lens" of 'oh, how pathetic this woman (me) is at this point in life..." You know the drill...lots of shoulds, still.Oh my. I've been using that word, "pathetic" lately, too. It comes from that part of me that's just so critical and judgmental. A part of me that just doesn't "get" the rest of me. It often sounds like my father's voice, even though I doubt he ever actually said that to me.
And as a comfort, I have never used that word about any of the clients I've had. So you are right that it's a lens we put on that obscures things. And that "should" word....oooh, don't get me started on that! :)
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> Talking about it here, though confusing still, makes it less so.I'm glad. Good thread.
gg
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