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Re: Partlycloudy

Posted by alexandra_k on September 15, 2018, at 23:02:33

In reply to Re: Partlycloudy alexandra_k, posted by Clearskies on September 15, 2018, at 21:49:06

> > it's like...

> > trying to play a team sport when all the individuals are focused on running after the ball instead of holding their field positions so they can play their part.

> Yes.

yes. thanks, pc :) you are good for me to talk to.

i know... she didn't know what her job description was. and neither did the people who were the boss of her. they didn't appreciate anything she did right. they also didn't appreciate that she went over and above what could reasonably be asked of her time and time and time and time and time and time again... and that, sometimes, this was why she didn't have time left to get to the things that... were supposed to be her job.

she did need a hand. she did need someone to say 'if he left stuff all over his floor then don't vaccum his floor. if it is possible for you to leave him a note saying if you want your floor to be vaccummed then leave your floorspace clear on such and such a day' then that is all can be reasonably expected of you.

and it would be better if she had 2 sets of rags and cleaning cloths. so that she could wash one days load first thing the following day (and get washing done and out of the washing room during the day time when most of the people are out).

and while the industrial strength cleaning stuff is nasty for her to work with there needs to be some kind of compromise so she isn't using her own products she purchased from the supermarket. because that stuff is for home and not for commercial use. it isn't designed to be used in residental student halls...

but none of this is my job.

and it is when you are trying to get a good team. you are partly responsible for making that. i do get that. i do. and i also get that it is really common for people to not see and appreciate some of the... unseen... things that people do. like putting things in the steraliser and not just giving them a quick little wipe with their hanky.

but i was paying to live in the residental hall. i wasn't been employed by the hall at all. i wasn't having my rent subsidised for me to play any kind of role in any of that.

and when i did bring things to the attention of managers whose job it was... they were completely dismissive of me. i mean, literally. when i said it would be good to wipe doorhandles and hand rails with disinfectant occasionally i got a `rubbish rubbish there are germs everywhere and if you wipe them the germs will only come back' type of response. in favor of never wiping these things. not even during times of... flu epidemic. in residential halls...


i will see what she says. i don't want to be domineering... only... i'm starting to see that you actually have to be. like the scrubs episode where doctor cox tried to be JDs friend and then JD didn't listen to him when he said something important.

i guess... partly it is about how much you want to get your team members doing tehir job by trying to get them to do it by way of inducing shame and guilt in them.


no... i think i refuse to play that game.

there does need to be a forum for them to be heard. yes. a checklist... could be undermining of that. i do see that.

but i also need to be on a team where people are focused on team outcome. not on undermining the team outcome for their own ends.

i think my supervisor... and the dean... are testing me.

i choose to believe.


i am glad you are here.

how many treatments do you have left? are you still feeling more functional?




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