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Re: Partlycloudy alexandra_k

Posted by alexandra_k on September 14, 2018, at 20:24:54

In reply to Re: Partlycloudy, posted by alexandra_k on September 13, 2018, at 18:41:56

The thesis thing is weird. I thought... I thought my supervisor was a sensible person with a sensible head on her shoulders. Only now i'm starting to wonder where I got that idea. I don't mean that in a nasty way, I just mean... I thought she was, but now she's got me wondering...

The faculty has been dragging it's heels the whole time... Basically all `no no no no no you can't finish in less than one calender year that wouldn't be fair to our other students' even when the uni calender regulations leave `year' ambiguous between calender and academic and actually, it's a 120 point paper which is 1200 hours and when you look into the (lack of) labour laws (and also the reccommendations)...

But it's become a bunch of people who got their yak on... And decided that no no no no no it couldn't be done. Not if they had anything to do with it.

And it's primary school, or whatever, all over again.

What are you supposed to do in times like this? Is this where you are supposed to take a day out of your life to go around and placate everyone 'I couldn't do this without you' when what you really mean is 'if you are determined that you have absolutely nothing better to do with your time than work to undermine what it is that i'm doing - even though what it is that I'm doing really doesn't concern you - AT ALL'.

And so the people go away and they can retain control of it all. For the good of. Them. I suppose.

Probably because they have some inkling that if they got a bunch of people like me then people wouldn't be taking a day out of their lives to hang out with them all day and placate them all day.

Happy birthday, them.

Sigh.

I really am not good at sucking it up when people are not willing to do their job.

I have a really hard time when people don't seem to understand what their job is and work towards doing their job to the best of their ability.

I handed in my thesis when I said I would. I need to hear back from externals that it has been accepted by x date. The Dean (who - according to the calender - makes the final decision) said `we try to get the examination process wrapped up in 3 months). and so: I submitted the best I could 3 months prior to x date. The very best I could do. As I said I would.

And now my supervisor is `you really shouldn't have submitted it without my saying it was okay for you to do that'. And I'm like `because you want it to be on your head that I don't get it done in time?' I thought she was kidding... I mean... She has to fill out a form of whether she thinks it ready *or not* to go to external examiners. And she ripped into me about my *expecting* her to sign off on it. And I'm like: Handing it in on time: My job. Handing it in of good quality: My job. Saying whether or not you think it is ready for external examiners: One of your jobs. That's why the form gives you options. See? And then she rips into me for my *arrogance* at thinking it will be good enough without her say so. So I point out `you thought I could grade how many students work??? And you don't trust me to have ANY IDEA on the quality of my own?' Maybe she does run her work through everyone in the university (spending a day with them all to check they don't mind) before submitting anything to the journals... Maybe she does. Maybe they all do.

ffs.

AAAAAAARGH

Can someone help me see this in a way that I can be... Better... At diffusing these sorts of things. Even if... Especially if... There is some little email template of 2 paragraphs of `homage to you' that I put at the start, or whatever it is that I have to do so people will get on and do their jobs and let me do mine.

And this is, of course, why you gotta work with a team of people simliarly focused. At the end of the day. Because these other folks... Would drive you mad. They really really would.

I get people grieving and stuff. Because that affects them. But when people want nothing other than to not see anybody working, at all...

 

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