Posted by giget on June 26, 2003, at 12:33:52
In reply to Thanks kaly, posted by kara lynne on June 25, 2003, at 15:04:28
Hey Kara,
I finally found you again. I was wondering how the move went and how you were doing.
Sounds like at least you got out of there for now. Don't let him use you now.He should be the one begging to have a relationship again. You have the upper hand, there is nothing you could have done in the past that would have changed the fact that you two could not be together. (was that a run on sentence?)
I still beat myself up over that stuff, so how can I ask you not to? I can just tell you what time has given me. I am still terribly lonely, but better to have gotten out of the relationship.
You have to relize that you are not the names he called you, and believe it. He is like the bully, picking on someone else, because they are lacking something in there life.
There is still times, even with all the time, that I want to call him. I don't even think at those times, I just find myself calling him, or the next morning looking through the call log, seeing his number.
My therapist says that I have not greived about this loss yet, and that I am still angry. The problem with a relationship for that long is that it breaks up the dream you had of the future.
I had this wonderful future I thought. He would propose perfectly, the wedding, having a house to share with him, our children... all that stuff. I planned my whole future with him. When we broke up, it was as if I have not dream anymore, there was no future. I understand that the future seems dark and scary. Once you have really let go of the dream, you can get over him. You have to relize what it would have really been having what you wanted. He would be mean to you all the time, break down your self esteem, you would have to hang out with his friends, and I bet he would say that the house was his, if you ever fought and that he just married you because that was the next step.
You can not force someone to change or love you the way you want them to love you. No matter what you do for that person or how you express your love, it will never change.
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