Posted by giget on July 2, 2003, at 12:11:09
In reply to Re: Kara how are you fending?, posted by kara lynne on July 2, 2003, at 11:52:23
Basically anything in Business, Computer management (not coding), data entry, secratary... anything to get me out of Michigan. I have a degree in Business.. and 1 year of experience in the computer field with an international company... Sounds like I am writing a resume...
If anyone finds anything for me please tell me... I need to get out of this state!Long confusing post below... hope you can follow my rambleing...
Same thing here about the items wanting to get them back... I would write him all the time just stating that I wanted them back... he said he did not know where they were, but if he stumbled apon them he would tell me. I knew exactly where they were....
Anyways, a good friend told me that that is just material stuff. I was trying so hard to get back the relationship by holding on to the possiblility of getting stuff back, and it was just worldly goods. I had to forget about getting the stuff back, would you really want it, if it reminded you of him. That is one more thing to look at on the sad days, that makes you cry.
Can you live without this stuff? Even if you have a friend with you, it will still be hard.
What do you say to him, how do you face him, will you cry......This is all hurt you don't have to put yourself through... Like I said before that I finally made a box of stuff that reminded me of him. I told my therapist, and he asked if I got ride of it, and I told him it is a box the size of a landuray basket. It was all the big stuff that I had to let go of.... Picture FRAMS, Vases, Glasses, even clothing that reminded me of that time..gifts he gave me... everything....
That helped so much. Ok I was in a drunken stumber at the time, which was not the right thing, but I needed to make the box....
Where was I going with this?...
Ohh yeah, forget about your stuff, let him deal with it... ifyou are like me you will only throw it away eventually anyways... what is the point of lugging around stuff that depresses you?
> Hi giget,
> You're right about that hanging on to the relationship through email, no question. We acually ended up *civil* yesterday --(it was hard, but I made myself). There are still a couple of things we have to work out about my getting my stuff back. I'm going over there today (with a kind friend who offered to go with me). That was how the emails started--mine was very terse and to the point asking when he might be away so I could come get my stuff, because I thought it would be easier when he wasn't there. He didn't like that, and we were off and running.
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> But his last email was full of pleases and kindlys--we'll see how long that lasts. We both agreed we just need some time right now, before any rigorous analyzation. The heartbreak is that of course you're right; I don't think he'll change, or that intense psychotherapy will save us, and it's just another false hope to stay attached to.
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> What kind of job are you looking for?
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