Posted by Scott in Vermont on June 9, 2004, at 15:38:18
In reply to Re: did someone say give up? » Scott in Vermont, posted by karen_kay on June 9, 2004, at 11:07:41
Meetings are Thursday nights after dinner. That is when we do a financial report, and we also assess the “to do” list, such as crossing off items that have been done, introduce items that need to be done, and review the list to look for obsolete or unnecessary items for deletion.
There is no “stupid” qurstion, but there are questions that are out of order with the current discussion. Such as, if the topic of discussion was replacing the shower head in the bathroom, and you said “speaking of which, who’s night is it next Wednesday?” (I was soooo going to say something else, but I think we’ve been really close to the “keep it civil” envelope so I didn’t use the word I wanted to, but it was a repaeat of one I already used, right after “shower” and would have replaced “which”…) That kind of question is complely off-topic, and is almost guarenteed to derail the discussion. We don’t normally have donuts in the house, but I would not mind some home-made donuts on occasion.
Items discussed (in topic order) are usually:
· Financial report
· Organization and supplies report
· Review of the “do list”
· New topicsThe items you mentioned such as sleeping arrangements, scheduling Scott time and girlfriend time, who's better in bed, visitors (or the fact that I may not like your visitors), and Jon sitting naked on the couch would be discussed under “New Topics”. If you wish to air dirty laundry and state feelings, you may do so, but please wait until we reach “New Topics”.
Everyone in the community is an adult (or at least of legal drinking age) and I hope that disagreements can be dealth with effectively and responsibly, mediating to an acceptable compromise without much hassle. If a personality conflict arises, it’s the responsibility of the the parties involved to work out that conflict amicably. If no resolution can be reached, there is always the old way of doing things. Bare fists, best of three falls wins, no questions asked. Speaking of fist fights, there is NO FIGHTING unless it is a sanctioned event. Rouge fighters will be spending some time in the basement.
“Roommates with sex" sounds so crass. Of course there would be some kind of relationship. I’m certain that over time love would be involved as well. I know that I’m not going to fall madly in love the minute I meet you, and honestly you’d frighten me if you said that you loved me at first sight. I want to work on a friendship that would be based on mutual respect, sharing, and honesty. When (if?) we reached the point where emotions were running deep, we’d deal with it from there.
If you fell in love with my girlfriend and tried to use me as a pawn to get her, what exactly do you mean by that? Do you mean get her in the sack, or do you mean take her from me completely and hold her in complete exclusivity? If you can keep her OUT of the sack, it’ll be an accomplishment on your part (part of her disorder thing, she likes sex a lot lot lot). But if you try to take her from me completely… well, I guess we’d have to have a talk in mediation.
If you left on your own (meaning you wanted to leave) I would help you as much as I could but would expect you to at least arrange some kind of transportation. If you were kicked out (by popular vote, mind you) then we’d help you pack and then happily drop your bags off at the nearest bus stop. But there aer so many negatives here! Let’s concentrate on the positive.
I would introduce you as my friend, or girlfriend, depending on how our relationship was going at the time. You could introduce me (and my 6 friends) as your boyfriend(s). I’m not terribly possessive,, so long as I am involved in some way. Much as I cannot be trapped or owned, I would not want to “own” another person. You are obviously a free spirit, and trying to cage you in would be as terrible as caging an eagle. You need freedom and space to spread your wings, but you also need a warm and safe nest to return to. I can be part of both of those needs if you wish.
Who said the other mattresses are lumpy and uncomfortable? And if there is one (which there isn’t, thank you… do you think I pick up my bed sets off the side of the road?) how do you know the one I’m already sleeping in isn’t the lumpy bed? My point here is have some consideration. If you would like to invite me to play, then of course wake me and hop into bed. But if you are going to be playing without me, and I am alreay there, then you really should go to a different room. We have 3 bedrooms and 5 beds. I think you can find a suitable bed for playtime. But ohh… I know… you’re going to say “sure, send me off to play with 6 of your friends on a twin bed?” Face reality here…. There isn’t a bed big enough for 7 people. That’s what they make floors for. But yes, I think making a schedule would be best, and if a situation arises where something occurs outside the schedule, I’m sure we can discuss it at the time and come to a reasonable agreement.
“what exactly do you have in your attic?”
I’ll have to show you, explaning it here would get me banned for at least 2 weeks.
Of course I’ll pay for you to get your hair done. My girlfriend has beautiful hair and I really like it, so if paying to do your hair gets me out of the pony discussion for now, joy of joyous joys! Yes, I’ll pay for your hair to be done. And yes, I’ll contribute to the KK Breast Fund. Trust me, it would not be a completely altruistic gesture.
I like to give gifts from time to time. I prefer them to be personal and thoughful, such as… if you like reading, I might buy you one of those nifty lamps that clip on your book for reading in bed at night. I would also pay attention to the things you liked to read and buy you book in that genre. This is not all I would do, it’s just an example of the kind of attention I would provide. If you’re going to be part of my life and I am going to be part of yours, knowing the “little things” about each other is important.
5’8 to 5’10, eh? Yes Karen, please come live with me. Please. I’ll even reconsider the pony.
And I’ll get you a special apron for gardening. They are called “overalls”. They won’t look as good on you as your cocktail (snicker) dress, but you know… overalls with a midrif t-shirt… (droool)…. Ok Scott, focus… well, you’ll look simply yummy…er, I mean you’ll look fine.
Major holidays are usually discussed with the “other” part of the family, mainly wacky blood relatives who I try to avoid unless a major holiday is coming up. We’lll cross those bridges as we get to them. And yes, we can have a snooty and very proper cocktail (snicker) party at least once a year, to prove that we do indeed have class and culture.
I would love to have a motorcycle. It’s on my “to get” list. I’ll probably get one right around the time you get a pony.
In all, not too shabby a deal here, I think. We need to start closing this deal and working out specifics. You need to arrive before the end of August at the latest so you can help with the garden.
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