Posted by Rigby on February 12, 2004, at 21:05:26
Hi All,
I've been thinking about validation lately. Do you guys ever feel like endless black holes in terms of needing validation?
Relative to therapy, some of us need to be, hugely, validated by our therapists. I guess this can come in a variety of flavors including wanting a therapist to like you, love you, sleep with you, take care of you. The list is probably as long as some of our difficult pasts.
I've seduced so many difficult "cases" including my therapist but it doesn't seem to matter. Once I get what I'm looking for, that is the validation, I'm over it quickly.
I realized tonight in therapy, while I never ask for validation, how my thirst for it feels basically insatiable. I'm given incredibly positive feedback from the outside world on a number of fronts but no matter what it is or how much, like a drug, it doesn't last very long and I go back to being plagued intensely by self-doubt and insecurity.Has anyone else struggled similarly along these lines? If so, while I know we're all works-in-progress, any insights anyone has gained would be really appreciated!
Rigby
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