Posted by muffled on December 23, 2007, at 19:28:09
In reply to Re: So here's a question.... » muffled, posted by lovelorn on December 23, 2007, at 9:06:53
> I am not sure what DH is when I read it here. Part of marriage is supposed to be sex unless you both agree otherwise. It's part of the reason people get married. Is it fair to him? No, not really. Is it fair to you to force yourself and have a horrible experience since you really don't want it? No, not really either.
*I dunno what DH means!! LOL! for me it means dear husband!!!
My husband would never want to hurt me. So I suppose its mutual that we not have sex. But he would like to.
> I think the question is: do you want it to get better, do you want to try to enjoy sex for yourself and your hubby. Did you ever enjoy it with him or at some point in your life? If yes, then maybe that is something to bring up with your T to work on. If not, then that is something between you and your hubby to talk about and come to an understanding.*Hmmm, not exactly sure what you mean here? Sex has always been hard for me, but that doesn't mean I don't want to do it. And there IS a part that is mebbe OK w/it, but I can't seem to find that part. Others are stronger now.
> I don't have problems with sex. It's been a few years but if I should ever find a loving and caring partner, I know it can be a very good experience that brings you closer to the person you care about and love. It can fulfill some emotional needs and makes one feel less alone in the world.*OK. Its sounds like it might be a good thing.
I will keep thinking on this.
Thanks!
M
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