Posted by star008 on December 24, 2007, at 15:09:29
In reply to Re: and you know whats worse? ** abuse trigger ** » star008, posted by muffled on December 23, 2007, at 23:38:13
Muffled..
you help me all the time, you just don't know it..You have supported me everytime..You helped me alot just by noticing when I was gone.. You help me to get in touch with some of my stuff too.. And it helps me to tell you where I was so I know things do get better even if it does take so dm long. You are no more screwed up than me.
Really the way you put things would make sense to him, i think. Just leave out the nauseous part;(
You could tell him it is new and has nothing to do with him but has to do with a memory, some experience that you can't remember.. It would be hard but it might be a good thing to do for both of you. He would be able to approach you better then..Wouldn't it be cool if he could use his maleness to help you feel protected instead of threatened?? That would be so great for you..Wouldn't it be nice to have some big strong arms holding you and keeping you safe?? Ummm yuck, that was too much wasn't it??)lolMuffled, you might never know exactly WHY. I did have SA experiences that I remember but the kid that gets so scared is too young to fit into the ones i remember. I can only suspect there was more.. My sister has done exactly wht you want to do.. She has run away crying and hid in a corner. She doesn't remember either. WTF happened?? MY Ikid gets really scared of my T sometimes just because of his maleness..
YOU might not know WHY exactly, but somehow you do know why..You know that something happened to the Ikid that gets so scared and both of us have a pretty good idea of wht that was. It's vague but we know what would make a kid respond that way. I think sometimes it might be harder not to remember cuz you are stuck being confused and not knowing why.. we can only guess..
it's gonna be okay muffs.. this part does get better.. u have to take my word for it.. i wish i was there and could help you more when you need it. Of course you would tell me to go home cuz you would get sick and tired of my speeches!!!
I don't know you but i really do care about you..
k.. enough of the sappy sh///t.. have a nice holiday
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