Posted by Lorraine on August 8, 2001, at 10:41:34
In reply to Re: Update Lorainne, Elizabeth, et. al. » Lorraine, posted by shelliR on August 7, 2001, at 12:33:18
Hi Shelli, elizabeth:
> No, I do think I need it, at least until parnate hopefully kicks in.Only you will know what works and what is needed.
> > > So, really no other addictions, except I am a true sugar/starch addict. Once I start, I can't stop, unless I am at someone's house or at a restaurant (and embarrassment saves me) and I even throw things out so I won't eat them.sugar addiction is real; so is starch addiction. I broke both addictions when I went low carb. Now I am very careful. If I start eating sugar or carbs (vacation or something), I have to really watch myself afterward to get off them again.
Shelli--just want to say that it's pretty easy to second guess you therapist decision from the peanut gallary but you are the one who knows her value and limitations and whether she is who you should be seeing right now. You seem to see things clearly and, amazingly, you seem to be able to pull back from her views when they are not useful. Good for you. There is also something for you to learn in her limitations--they force you to protect yourself emotionally in an involved situation. My husband is a general all-round good guy, but he has his limitations like the rest of us mortals. When I was in a toxic work environment that was really destroying me, he failed to see the danger in my continuing to work for an abusive boss--all he could see was the glitter and the gold of this "once in a lifetime" position. At the time, I verified my sense of reality through him--not realizing that he had this fault. One of the lessons I had to learn was to pull back from my enmeshment with him and discern whether his opinion was useful or not. It is a really important lesson and you seem to have a handle on it.> > > Yes, you are being pushy :-). And that's okay--you care. But I'm pretty clear on this
See what I mean? This is a healthy habit.
> > > I really want to get the medication thing straight before I make any changes in my life. I have not disclosed some of my shame issues to anyone but her, and several other past therapists.
The medication thing has to be in place first. And then you will only need to disclose to those people you choose and to whom it is appropriate. In my case, it helped to know that I was value and loved notwithstanding these shameful events.
> > > I'm not generally interested in support groups, but that does sound interesting.Well, I have a strong need for community right now.
> Very encouraging. Are you up to 20mg a day or 10?
Still 10. I'll move to 15 after I see someone re my hormones later this month or when I feel that 10 isn't cutting it. 10 is managable for me right now.
How is Parnate treating you?
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