Posted by Eddie Sylvano on May 12, 2003, at 12:44:35
In reply to Re: Toxic Friendships » Eddie Sylvano, posted by WorryGirl on May 12, 2003, at 12:28:51
> Unfortunately I don't think it's that simple. What I'm terribly afraid of is that she just plain considers herself superior to me in just about every way and enjoys feeling that way and letting me subtly (and sometimes not so subtly) know that she finds me to be inferior.
-------------Who knows why people act they way they do sometimes. It's always the worst when behavior is inconsistant, like your friend. Do you like me or no? Pick a side. It sounds like she's working a social angle for something, but who knows what?
My soon-to-be mother-in-law (lotta hyphens there) has been the type of person who does everything in her power to gain social favor, while being really hurtful to the people around her in private. It worked well for her for many years, and made her look good at the expense of others. Last year, however, her husband finally got up the will to leave her, her daughter realized that she doesn't want to talk to her anymore (her mom only makes her feel bad about herself), and it's all coming back to her. She has no one, and no one can really feel sorry for her. Next time you get snubbed by someone like that, know that their victory is short gained, and they're running at a social debt that will come back to get them (it just may take a while).> I'm really sorry for rambling like this. It's just that every time I think I'm making a bit of progress, I fall two steps back.
-------------Sounds like you're on the right track to me. Hope you find some friends that appreciate you :)
_joe
poster:Eddie Sylvano
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