Posted by Roo on June 18, 2001, at 8:29:05
In reply to Re: Am I just too depressed to committ to anyone? » Roo, posted by Glenn Fagelson on June 16, 2001, at 23:06:52
> Dear Roo,
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> I would really like to give you some feedback;
> I might have been in a similar situation, but
> I would need to know what kinds of doubts and
> anxieties you are having? Also, I am not
> getting a clear picture of what your boyfriend
> (fiancee) is like?Oh he's wonderful. Very kind, smart, gentle, handsome...
In many ways, the "perfect" boyfriend that any woman would
want. Sometimes too damn perfect. Sometimes I feel like
I have the stepford boyfriend, you know? I feel like
"show me your raw, ugly side...get mad at me every once
in awhile...tell me I'm getting on your nerves..."...He's always
so damn nice to me sometimes it drives me crazy!
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> Relationships do take a lot of work, don't they?!
> Did someone hurt you in the past? I know for
> me that I was hurt in childhood and the thought
> of getting close to someone else was (and still
> is to some extent) very frightening and
> uncomfortable.Yes, someone hurt me in my past. I had a very traumatic
experience as a young kid (2 or 3 years old) that I think
affected my ability to trust and be close. My parents
joined a religious commune where I was neglected and got
mostly no attention, or negative attention. Parents were
separated from their children and encouraged not to give
them too much attention. Too long to really go into.Do you feel free within your
> relationship?In some ways. Not in other ways. But I don't feel free a lot
of the time. Even with my closest friends.
Are you scared that you might
> not find someone else if you broke up with him?Oh yes. Very, very afraid of that.
> I can imagine how hard it is for you;
> you have invested at least a couple of years
> in this relationship. One way or the other,
> I hope it works out for you, Roo.
Me too, Glenn...thanks for caring...I pray that the right
thing to happen, will happen, and the right path will
become clear with time.
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> Take care, Glenn
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