Posted by RealMe on August 23, 2007, at 0:31:51
In reply to Re: I'm a therapy weakling, posted by DAisym on August 22, 2007, at 23:57:54
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Well when one has to take care of one's self as a child with all the abuse, then allowing someone to help means you are weak--that was always how I saw it, and it fits for now; if I can't take care of all this myself, it means I am weak. Well in my head I know that is not true.
I decided to try to be just me and not the perfect patient as that doesn't work, and your therapist is right; perfect is boring. Who wants to be perfect and do everything right. No one would want to be around you, because they would feel like they could never measure up to you. Sounds like you have a really good therapist.
So, my suggestion; to the best of your ability try to be just you. IT is a lot easier then to make a connection, and when you do, it is likely it will scare the hell out of you. Maybe not, but it does me as then I am trusting someone who knows me in a way I don't know myself, and thay makes me vulnerable. So, it comes down to trust that the therapist will not intentionally hurt you, and if it happens, it is likely to be repairable as it will have been unintentional. Your post got me to really thinking too. Thanks.
RealMe (Oz)
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