Posted by sunnydays on August 21, 2007, at 10:30:20
In reply to I'm a therapy weakling, posted by DAisym on August 20, 2007, at 21:58:08
I wish I knew Daisy. My therapist can push me to a certain degree if I'm in the right frame of mind for it, which I am sometimes. But other times the exact same thing will reduce me to tears for the night. If I'm already in the little-girl place seems to be when it upsets me. That's why my T tries to keep the conversation in areas where I'm more adult sometimes.
My T and I have had the discussion about telling him what doesn't work right then. Sometimes I can do it, but sometimes the upset doesn't come until later about a particular comment. Does that happen for you? It really can be useful if you can manage to figure it out, but I know it's really hard because I only manage to figure out it's happening a small percentage of the time.
Sometimes for me I think I feel like I need comfort that day but he's in a more problem-solving mode, or in the mood to push more. And so sometimes I think we just end up working at cross-purposes without knowing it. I wouldn't call it a secondary gain, though. Everyone needs that feeling.
I think that maybe you just aren't ready to be pushed. Maybe if you can see if it makes a difference whether you're feeling more like the little girl or more adult in session? I wish I had more advice to give. It's such a struggle sometimes, isn't it?
sunnydays
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