Posted by RealMe on August 21, 2007, at 0:09:45
In reply to I'm a therapy weakling, posted by DAisym on August 20, 2007, at 21:58:08
Clearly I don't know what is the huge loss you feel, but it seems to have to do with earlier years and perhaps experiences other than abuse. Was anyone there for you emotionally?? ever?? I certainly don't take your therapist comments the way you do. Should he nudge; yes; and it is important to start thinking about what that triggers in you within the session. Of course you can't do it over night or in a week or a month. That is the goal sort of, to notice in the session if you start to feel hurt, lonely, and any other feeling, and to talk about it. It is easy for that stuff to fester, and usually we are wrong about what was intended by the comment. I sure find that true with my therapist. And, though I don't say it immediately (sometime yes), I try to say something the next session, but I don't always succeed. The relationship with the therapist is part of the "cure." Remember that. You are in a sense reliving things with someone who is not going to hurt you and who can help you heal That is of course also scary because in the long run it means you won't need your therapist anymore. You are not at that point and probably not even close, and when it does happen, you will be ready. I know that to be true. Part of therapy is resisting. That is normal too.
YOu know from where I sit you are doing a fantastic job in therapy and working really hard; your therapist sees this, and if it is too much, he will understand that you need to back off for a time. You are definitely not a therapy weakling--quite the opposite.
RealMe (OzLand)
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