Posted by LadyBug on July 23, 2006, at 18:55:07
In reply to He's leaving ****triggers****, posted by ElaineM on July 23, 2006, at 16:29:16
El
I have a hug for you and I wish I could take your pain away. I hope you tell him before he leaves how much you are hurting and that you need a plan in place of what to do should you need someone to help you while he's gone. He won't know unless you tell him. Guys are just this way, T or not, we have to explain it too them word for word. I've had to learn over the years how to work out the situation before my T leaves to go on vacation. It's taken us a lot of trial and error, lots of pain for me to go through. But we do have a system now. She calls me from her cell phone from the airport and leaves me a voice mail. I can listen to it while she is gone. It's a comfort to me. I'm sorry you're going through this. It's so painful to feel so alone. The time will pass and he will be back. I wish your Dr. was still there for you. You do have us for now and we understand and care.
This might not be the best reply. I had surgery 6 days ago and my head is not clear from the pain meds. I've only been taking 1/2 pill maybe 2 times a day and my brain is so foggy I can't stand it. It has helped the pain but I want my life back. Last night I did't sleep cuz I did't take any pain med. and after about 5:30 am I said to heck with it and took 1/2 pill just to get some sleep. Everytime I went to sleep I'd cough and feel like my guts were going to come out. I swear I won't take anymore I don't care if I don't sleep till next week. I hate the feeling. Sorry to make this part of my post. It's what's going on in my life right now. I just wanted you to know I understand your pain. It hurts. And I'm sorry for you. You get to the point of doing anything to take the pain away. Remember no matter how much it hurts, it will pass. It always does. It comes to a more tolerable level. It's never easy. I hope your T gives you something substancial to hold on to when you are at the end of your rope. My T is the knot I tie at the end of my rope when I can't hang on by myself anymore.
I hope to hear more from you. You matter to me.
Hugs
LadyBug
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