Posted by Dr. Rod on November 20, 2003, at 0:42:58
In reply to Multi diagnosed wife. Help dont want to divorce., posted by LOVEUMIKO on November 19, 2003, at 19:07:42
Sadly, as heartless as this may sound, you are in good shape to wait out the inevitable... CPS having your kids under these circumstances causes everyone toooooooooo much pain... If that can't be changed, think of the oppotunity you have... The kids are being taken care of (albeit badly), your wife can't be your immediate responsibility when there is an active restraining order, so you can now afford to wait... What I mean by "the inevitable" is you have NOTHING until she overcomes her internal conflicts... We might all be bad at conflict management; being a cop you've heard this story in training... Her mountainous problem is much worse... She must overcome her internal conflict(s) before she can even begin to be effective at normal everyday stuff... If she identifies opinions she holds as truths that don't belong to her, she will begin to shed a big part of her internal conflict... Also, The better she gets at conflict resolution, the better she gets at conflict resolution, etc. etc... Meanwhile, you can go about your business, hoping and praying that this all will be quick, so you can get back to that family you want... I had a gal friend in the past that I adored with much the same story you relate... Several years later, she's still making those excuses why she can't change... Sad, very sad... I wish you better luck than I had...
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