Posted by dj on July 24, 2000, at 23:29:17
In reply to Re: Rambling, unhappy post: Feeling awful, posted by Janice on July 23, 2000, at 22:52:32
> the worst thing is that not only do we inherit their genes, we then have to endure their abuse.
>(I'm assuming you're talking about your parents)Here's a poem I've seen quoted in a few places from a British poet named Philip Larkin, I belive:
"Your parents fuck you up,
They don't mean to but they do,
They give you all their faults,
And throw in some just for you."Though J. may not have been on the mark about your current sources of unhappiness, there's a good chance it traces back to and echoes of your childhood roots and relationships (and your perceptions of them) with your parents. Generally seems to be the case from what I've read, heard, seen and experienced and certainly was for me.
I believe there was mention of forgiveness for whoever, above... A lot of it comes down to realizing that people are acting out whatever their interpretation of their script and relationships are/were and that often they are doing the best they can/could have under those circumstances. It's all about perspective.
Sante!
dj
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