Posted by shar on July 23, 2000, at 1:52:15
In reply to Re: Rambling, unhappy post: Feeling awful » Cass, posted by shellie on July 23, 2000, at 0:43:43
I think situations like yours are like triage. You take care of the most hurt first.
I have a feeling that the some of the first work to do is integrate yourself, hold on to yourself, honor yourself and your pain and your scars. Acknowledge how far you've come (bringing Little Cass with you). Takes time.
Now you have power that you did not as a child. You are strong and growing, and sad for the pain, and angry at your betrayers.
So, Little Cass is safe now, and Big Cass is powerful and will stand up to anyone who wants to hurt Little Cass. You, Cass, have wisdom, skills, knowledge, to protect yourself.
Once you firmly believe you will take care of yourself, honor yourself, I think things will take on a new perspective. To forgive or not? Who knows?
But, when you focus on your betrayers your energy is going outward to them. When you focus on your own healing, hurting, caring for you, the energy is going into you.
I hope this made sense.
Best to you.
Shar
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