Posted by Greg A. on August 15, 2001, at 15:51:26
In reply to Too close to home, posted by JennyR on August 14, 2001, at 19:26:06
Hi Jenny,
I’m not sure if I should respond to your thoughts today or not. It has been a lousy week for me and I may be much too negative.
My wife has asked the chicken vs. egg question on more than one occasion. Am I depressed because of her or are we getting farther apart because I am depressed.
What do you like about your husband? How have you changed so that you feel you need something more? I am a very steady type despite the depression. Nothing flashy. Just a person with a conscience that doesn't walk away from responsibilities. Too much so maybe as I often feel that my responsibilities extend too far for my own good. My wife wants a partner who is more attentive to her needs. For example – I don’t go out with the boys and leave her alone. I just don’t go out at all and she still feels alone. I think she wishes I would do some things away from her as long as that meant the time we were together was better.
I’m just curious what makes a lousy marriage from your point of view and why you settled for something so different than what you need now. Maybe I’ll find something that will help me make some sense out of where I am and give me an idea of what to do. I don’t think at this point, doing nothing is an option for me.Greg
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