Posted by JennyR on August 14, 2001, at 19:26:06
In reply to Re: Patience is a virtue?? » Greg A., posted by Marie1 on August 14, 2001, at 7:29:15
Man is this all too close to home. I have been unhappy in my marriage for a very long time (17th anniversary coming up). I stay because of the kids, because I don't want it to look bad to the relatives, and because my husband would be devastated - he's a very dependent type. The result is I'm miserable. there's not the slightest doubt in my mind that if this were a boyfriend, I'd be outta there in a flash. What I was willing to settle for then, and what I feel I deserve now are very different.
I feel hopelessly trapped. Glad to know there are other prisoners in this prison, in different cells.
The other question it brings up for me is, does th lousy marriage which meets none of my needs cause the depression, of does the depression make me dissatisfied with the marriage? No way to tell.
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