Posted by sunnydays on February 26, 2007, at 20:40:37
In reply to Re: ^^^please respond to the above, somebody^^^^, posted by JoniS on February 26, 2007, at 18:17:26
> It's not all fake! You are hurting and understandably so, but he does care about you, it's obvious from your previous posts and how you've described some of your sessions.
*** Thanks, I know he does, deep down. It's just hard right now.
Your T is very strict about boundaries, and they aren't as wide as some of the other T's whose clients have posted here. You have to be honest about your progress and know that it has not been fake.
***** Umm... actually, I think he's pretty open. He lets me email him more than once a day if I need to and always replies at least a couple words to say he got it. And I can call. But yeah, I do know it's not fake. It's just hard right now.
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> I will just tell you that even though my T has strict boundaries too, he wouldn't push me when I was already down. I think that is a little odd. It could indicate that he has feelings he's not comfortable discussing. Another thing to think about is that Ts are human too, and unfortunately, they can (and do) make mistakes even when we are fragile.***** I think he had valid therapeutic reasons. The problem is, I've been feeling bad for a long time, so I think he's trying to think of a different angle to go about working on some issues.
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> When I think back about the times that I didn't feel well connected with my T, I realize that often he was distracted with whatever was going on in his life. (not that he should get distracted, but he is human)**** I doubt that's it, just because I saw him Friday as well, so unless something came up over the weekend. He was gentle on Friday.
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> Please take care of yourself. Do something for YOU! Relaxing bath with candles and music - all by yourself, or read a good book or ... you know what you like.
>*** Thanks, I'll try.
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