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Re: update

Posted by Daisym on February 27, 2007, at 10:09:45

In reply to Re: update » Daisym, posted by sunnydays on February 27, 2007, at 9:24:28

Can you tell me what that means to you? I know for me, if I come in and say something like, "I have too much work to do but I can't focus on it" my therapist will sometimes jump in with suggestions of "shutting stuff down" so that I can work, but I can then take that to mean he doesn't want to hear about the "bad stuff" either. Does that sound familiar? Intellectually I know he is helping me do what I need to do, but secretly I think I want him to say, "I totally understand why you can't focus. It is OK to ignore your work because you feel so bad." *sigh*

A major part of the work for me is allowing my adult self and my kid self to be in the room at the same time. I'm usually in one mode or another. My adult self gets mad at my therapist for "allowing" the kid parts at all. So it is really complicated. I am beginning to feel some sympathy and sadness for the hurt little girl, but mostly I want her (and her memories) to just go away. So my therapist has to balance the needs of all the parts, while making sure he doesn't treat me like a child, as much as I might feel like one. I need to nurture this part of me outside of sessions more -- but it is really hard.

Try to think about why having him address your adult side was so painful. It might help inform some of the next discussion.

I hope today is a better day.

 

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