Posted by muffled on January 3, 2007, at 11:25:56
In reply to Re: falling apart, posted by wishingstar on January 3, 2007, at 10:16:18
> Not fun. I like her coat analogy. Only I never take any off. And sometimes I even bring extras to share with the other therapists wandering around (they recognize me, it a small center) and even Ginny! Have to be friendly, right? :) Can you tell me why you think you keep going back? Even when you feel like you dont care either way, dont like her, etc? I just ask because I'm feeling the same way, and maybe knowing why you do will help me to be able to as well.
***ROFL!!! Oh MAN WS! You got a bad case of coatitis!!! I never even thot of sharing extras!!!!LOL!!You made me laugh there!!!
I go back, because while my T has her flaws, I DO feel she cares....not to say I fully trust her, but I think she does care some. I also feel that I will be able to work with her. She seems to be very willing to try stuff. She seems she not a quitter. I dunno, I saying this my from my perspective NOW. Hmmm, awhile back, mebbe it was partly a case of I just wanted to get better. I was sick of feeling the way I did, I felt my life was just wasting away, and I wasn't being a healthy Mom. So I went back because, partly I was scared to try and find a new T. It was SO hard to say(or send) as much to my T as I had. I went back, cuz even though my T didn't seem so great cuz she just SO didn't "get ' me, she seemed so willing to try. I went back cuz I was scared and desparate and didn't know what else to do.....
And its working out.
My T is human and has failed me at times, but mostly she doing OK. I am a challenging client, and she has not given up on me. She is so willing to try anything if she thinks it will help. She is a very kind person. She is as honest as she is able to be with me..lol!(sometimes I can just hear her brain squeaking when she trying to find the right words to say something in the 'right' way when I have asked her a pointed question!!!!)But when it comes down to the crunch, she seems to be honest, even if its said in 'careful' terms!> ****** As for why it's wrong... I still dont really know. You'd have to ask Anne. It didnt feel wrong and I wasnt trying to be manipulative or anything, but she told me I was wanting her to do all the work. These wernt notes that were mean to her, telling her she HAD to do anything.. just notes about how desperate I was feeling. Laurie used to say she was proud of me and happy I gave her notes like that. But I'm afraid to do it. They never were miracles with Laurie, you're right. But it always at least introduced the topic and made it easier to talk about.
**exactly. Well said. I think Anne has her own stuff and it got in the way :(
> ****Not that I know of. Truthfully, I'm too scared to ask. Because then it's like I'm saying "there is a lot I want to say" and even that is scary for me. That's how deep this goes. Hah!
Hah! :( Yeah, I know. I still think Poets fling and run thing might work for you. Seriously. Print out this thread and as you leave, just hand it to her(or plunk it on her desk) and literally run out the door.
I sometimes will have paper in my hand , but can't bring myself to give it to T. She has learned to ask if she see's paper in my hand....> *****What you wrote about testing really made me think. But I do think things need to be shaken up a bit.
**Again, good wording. Its when things get shaken up a bit that the relationship w/mt T improves...
Mebbe you could bring out the kid in you and make it a game to see if you can get T to be surprized bout something?...(like clothes, or blurt something...)
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> Maybe I will write that book! Only $19.95 hardcover. Do you think Dr Bob will post a link to it up with the other books?**Hey! You goto share the proceeds!!!
> I havent called her yet but I am thinking about it still.
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** I wish you would...think of it as the first step in the 'shake up!'.
Mebbe commit yourself by saying on the message that your going to bring some papers and she needs to ASK you for them and don't take no for an answer!
That'd proly shock her :)! LOL.
Its funny, stuff that we think is so hard, if you can just say to your self I am going to do this ONE thing, just keep working at getting your mind around it. Just keep telling yourself, I can do this one thing. Totally psych yourself ready to do it. And mebbe you will, and mebbe you won't, either way its OK. Just keep trying is all.
I KNOW you can do it WS. Its just a matter of WHEN.
Take care,
I'm rather long winded aren't I?
Proly talking to myself as much as you!
Muffled
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