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Re: Unfortunately, and very fortunately, yes Dinah

Posted by Annierose on October 20, 2005, at 22:09:39

In reply to Unfortunately, and very fortunately, yes Annierose, posted by Dinah on October 20, 2005, at 17:46:12

It's interesting because she has consciously made a shift in her "I wonder if ...." scenarios. My father has NEVER entered into a conversation with me my entire life. He talks "at" people, does not converse "with" anyone.

I did get the feeling that maybe someone close to her is dieing or has recently died. This is the second time within a month she has given me these "what if they die" questions. What's up with THAT?

I total agree with being put in a vulnerable position everytime I'm in the same room with my family. I am proud of myself for feeling more in control, not angry or bitter when I'm with them. My T reacted to a situation where I felt strong. She said she didn't realize that I normally just suck in all the barbs and insults they lash my way. This time, I calmly and quietly spoke back. And for that I felt good. My husband was proud.

The scenario: Last Thursday, I meet up with my parents and 4 siblings + spouses at a New York City hotel lobby. My dad hasn't seen me for about 2 months. He says, "Are you doing something different to yourself. You look pretty." What kind of sh*tty compliment is that? I reply back in a calm, controlled voice, "Maybe I've always been pretty, and you just never noticed."

 

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