Posted by messadivoce on July 29, 2005, at 19:04:47
In reply to Re: Lott: Question about recovering from transference, posted by deborah anne lott on July 28, 2005, at 21:46:34
You're asking how I worked through this.
It took a LONG TIME. I was in agony the first 5 months. I missed him so much that I thought I didn't know how I was going to get on with my life. I would go to class and be sitting there and suddenly feel just incredibly sick from the pain of missing him.
It took lots of crying and writing, and being angry, and talking to my best friend (the only one who had the patience to listen to me talk about him 10,000 times) and trying to draw on the strength he had given me. He gave me lots courage and told me that I was strong, that I was courageous and smart and whatever happened in my life, I could get through it. It was the closeness of the connection we had in therapy that got me through. I can't imagine how much I'd still hurt if our relationship had ended on a negative note.
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