Posted by LadyBug on July 29, 2005, at 14:49:07
In reply to Lott: Question about recovering from transference, posted by pinkeye on July 28, 2005, at 12:32:01
First of all I must say I love your book! I bought it when it first came out. It came at a time when I was struggling with understanding transference. I bought a copy for my therapist and she liked it as well. She shared it with her co-therapists.
Here's my question. What do you think of "Love" in the therapy relationship? If I love my therapist, is it ok to tell her? I have been seeing her for over 8 and a half years. We have a strong connection and work well together. A few weeks ago, she told me that she adored me, she loved me and cared for me and she wants me to know that without a doubt. I know she is trying to heal the little girl inside of me. My mom is bipolar and with each child born, she got sicker and sicker. I was #4 out of 5. I grew up without her EVER (not even once) giving me a hug or telling me she loved me. Of course I longed for that. I wanted to love her but it wasn't safe as she wasn't there for me.
So I'm asking you if this is appropriate to express in our relationship? We don't express it as love all the time. Other words are used as well such as regard, affection just to name a few. I know all about transference and this is not just that. I believe we do love each other. WE have worked together for many years.
I'd love to see you write another book. You are awesome. You book sits on my nightstand. I refer to it often.
Thank you for your book and for your time. Let us help you get another one out there!
LadyBug
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