Posted by alexandra_k on April 25, 2005, at 19:22:46
In reply to Re: three things, Alex, posted by sunny10 on April 25, 2005, at 11:56:22
(((Sunny)))
Yeah, people do have lots of weird things going on. I just worried that this was a little too weird.> 2) everyone who suffers from low self-esteem has used sex to "get love". It doesn't work, but that doesn't prevent us from trying to "please people to get them to like/love us". I've done it, you've done it. Frankly, almost everyone I know has done it at one time or another.. The mature ones have outgrown it. Not sure you and I have, but at least we are strarting to understand enough to question our motives...surely that is half the "maturing"!?!
Yeah. I guess I really discovered that one at 14. I realised I was too old for people to care about me like a kid, where sex wasn't a part of that. And that I had missed out on that anyways, it was too late because my parents didn't love me. And nobody would ever love me like they were supposed to have because nobody else was my parents (I used to fantasise that I was adopted so I might have a better chance with some other peoples). And I was too old anyway. It was too late for me. So I thought that the way that you got love as an adult was to have an 'adult' relationship and that meant sex. I don't know.
> 3) if you stay on Efexxor XR, you will lose your sex drive anyway and these thoughts will start to subside so that you aren't "non-depressively, clear-headedly" thinking about them all the time!!!
Yeah. I think that is starting to affect me already (in that way). Hmm. I do wonder sometimes if that is an intended side affect of psych meds. To try and prevent 'people like us' having kids... I don't know. Just my paranoia talking I suspect.
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