Posted by octopusprime on October 3, 2003, at 2:43:39
In reply to Please help me understand my husband, posted by JJC on October 2, 2003, at 14:09:27
JJC - that stony silence is the most difficult to live with. it must be very trying.
do you have somewhere you can go for a weekend or a week? i know you are very concerned about your husband, but the other posters are right, he has to help himself. and in the meantime you suffer the stifling loneliness of being in a house with someone that was once so near and is now so far away.
a change of scenery might help you relax. especially if you are with supportive friends and family to talk to. i'm glad you're seeing a professional to talk this over.
it's so hard to watch someone you love destroy himself. the terrible thing about love is that you have to let him do it.
take care of yourself, jjc. keep looking out for your financial, mental, physical, and spiritual best interests. take some time out away to think, regroup, recover from the pain he is causing you. see if you can create change.
good luck, i'll be thinking of you.
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