Posted by mair on May 30, 2001, at 21:33:05
In reply to Re: Friendships and other problems Mair » mair, posted by shelliR on May 28, 2001, at 13:27:47
> Shelli - I think you've touched on something I've been struggling with but have not been able to articulate. I think I want my friends to know because I feel that I've expended alot of energy trying to actively mask my depression and I don't really want to do that anymore. By the same token, I recognize that there are limits to how much I burden them with and frankly, I'm not the type to easily share things anyway. I'm probably also hampered by a sense that I need my friends alot more than they need me. I propbably keep myself at a distance because i don't want to say or do something that will remind me of this. Having said all of this maybe I should be content that they don't know. Obviously I'm vascillating alot.
I told my therapist about your response. We've agreed to discuss the issue of what people should know soon. It's very timely because she's been heavily lobbying me to bring my kids to one of my sessions.(they now know virtually nothing) There probably are similarities between the ambivalence I have about drawing my friends in and being more honest with my children. Thanks
Mair (muddled, but not ready to retreat)
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