Posted by shelliR on May 27, 2001, at 15:12:24
In reply to Re: Friendships and other problems Mair, posted by Jane D on May 27, 2001, at 13:59:48
> Mair, (Can I still think of you as K?)
First of all, did your post get lost in the redirect? I can't find it. Anyway, I was basically able to read it again from someone's rely.
> When you're depressed or undergoing difficult drug changes, it's pretty impossible to keep up with friendships - there is, for me, a natural inclination to isolate myself. I've had to grieve the loss of several friendships that have dissipated from lack of nurturing. I'm not sure I know a way around it and I've never felt comfortable trying to explain why I've disappeared. <2000 was a really bad year for me and I did not keep up with friendships. Didn't cancel plans, just didn't make them. On New Years eve, this year, I made New Years cards and sent them to several people who I hadn't been in contact with, but didn't want to lose from my life. It's amazing how things just sort of picked up again, not with great intensity, but the connection was still there, and I got calls and invitations. Even though not depressed, lots of people in my life are crazy busy, with jobs, and kids, illnesses, ill parents, etc. I don't think anyone even thought to take it personally that I had withdrawn for a while. Everyone knows I get crazy with work and a few very close friends know I just get crazy.
My point (!). Don't assume these friendships are really lost. I think when you are ready, friendships can reestablish themselves easier than one might anticipate.
Shelli
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