Posted by emmanuel98 on November 12, 2010, at 0:16:51
In reply to Re: Dependence versus attachment, posted by Solstice on November 11, 2010, at 22:07:54
I like your distinction between dependence and attachment. I was dependent on my T, even over-dependent. I had defined myself all my life as independent and not needing things from anyone, but once I started therapy, I felt that I would die if I couldn't see him every week. All he had to do was raise his eyebrows or look slightly impatient or annoyed and I would cry for days. Attachment was slower. I suffered severe neglect and abuse as a child and had avoident attachment with my parents. It took a while to feel safe enogh with him, to trust him enough, that I could feel securely attached. That took years.