Posted by pegasus on November 11, 2010, at 11:54:17
In reply to Re: Therapy and termination » Annabelle Smith, posted by Solstice on November 11, 2010, at 1:24:59
Solstice wrote: "You're talking about two things there. Attachment - even strong attachment - is a good thing. It's over-dependence that can create the problems you described. A good therapist will know how to manage signs of over-dependence. Some dependence is usually necessary."
This is intriguing to me. When I felt uncomfortably dependent on my past T, I eventually came to understand the strength of that as being due to attachment, which is a biological imperative. So, that helped me to understand the really intense energy around that relationship. But here you are suggesting (and Daisy mentioned it earlier in another thread) that attachment does not equal dependence.
So, what do you understand is the difference, exactly? Is the dependency a symptom of insecure attachment (ambivalent/preoccupied type, I guess). If one is overdependent, how can that be resolved?
This seems to me to be the BIG ISSUE around termination, at least in my own mind.
-P
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