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Re: More

Posted by JoniS on August 6, 2007, at 22:36:06

In reply to More, posted by slugdoo on August 6, 2007, at 16:49:12

Doo,

I understand why you are hurting so much. If I had a session like that I'm sure I'd become a basket case. I am so sorry about that. One thing I want to say to you is please don't allow his mistakes to bring you down and take shots at yourself.

>
> I asked him if he didn't want to work with me anymore. He asked why I always think that? uggghhh!

>
> I know I am forgetting stuff, but I felt so unsafe, so judged by him. and a piece of crap.

**** No, you are not a piece of -----****
>
> ... I said I sure didn't help you today and he said well you didn't hurt me either for Ekg.

**** It's not your job to "help" him, it's HIS job to help you ****

>
> Then several hours later, I am what a complete
jerk!

****** you are not a complete jerk ****

>
And now I can add him to the list of the people who don't care about me in my lifetime.
>

*** like other babblers have already said, I don't believe that he doesn't care about you, even though he said what he did.....****

>I told him I will find out somebody else or I will just give up comletely on my problems.

**** dont give up just because HE screwed up Badly, dont punish yourself *****
>
> Icould I be so stupid to trust him?

*** you are NOT stupid to trust him, that is how therapy works ****

Doo, Look at how hard you were on yourself over this and it's not your problem, it's his. Like others have said, he must have been having a bad day, BUT, there is no excusing how he was to you. The mistakes he made today don't make the past a lie, so don't tell yourself that. Hold on to the help you've gotten from the relationship.

If my T did this, I would definitely find another T, even if I received apologies. Imo, a professional does not act like this - several insensitive statements in one session, putting himself and his feelings before yours.

I am so sorry for your pain. I care very much for my T and I know he cares about me, even though it isn't like his family. It would be unbearable pain for me if he told me things like he wouldn't go to my funeral, raised his voice with no apology, made light of my crying. When I cry my T often hands me tissue. He explained that he does sometimes think of his clients outside T, he has feelings like I do, but he works hard to refrain from expressing them too much because he does not want to cause harm to me, t is about me, not T. My T is good about drawing boundaries, but he doesn't say hurtful, insensitive things when he draws them.

When you were on the phone was that with him, or was that a recorder? If you were on the phone with him, did he say anything?

I hope you find someone you can feel good with and trust and open up to. Hold on to the loving thoughts and cares from Babblers, and those you love. I wish you recovery and happier days. Be good to yourself!

((((((((((((sDoo))))))))))))


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