Posted by 10derheart on July 5, 2007, at 13:10:24
In reply to Re: I hate being angry with my T :-( » Dinah, posted by 10derheart on July 5, 2007, at 12:53:01
That my therapist - or most of them for that matter - unless they are very young, or only do short term work - actually need someone like me to teach them about the sacredness of the therapy space. This came up again today, as I was telling him the good part about the cell phone is that he recalls my first reaction maybe 1.5 years ago, and honors it by always leaving the room and closing the door immediately if he must talk on it. Back then he expressed wonder and surprise that I called it "sacred" (no doubt borrowed from a wise Babbler) and said he'd have to really give that some thought.
I am still floored by the need to re-explain it some, or remind him of the depth and significance of the sacredness, which suffers if it's violated by his "real" relationships with family intruding in any form. It just all seems so obvious. Especially for a fairly gifted, sensitive, good T. like this one who has done this work going on 32+ years.
My theory, after spending several years on Babble, is that plenty of his clients have felt the same way, but were too afraid to express it, just didn't know how or thought it was an "unacceptable" topic.