Posted by Dinah on July 6, 2007, at 15:18:30
In reply to But it still floors me, posted by 10derheart on July 5, 2007, at 13:10:24
You are so right. I have talked to my therapist many times about how "this" (doing a rotating gesture to the space between us) is sacred in a very special way. And I really thinks that to some extent he gets it.
Yet when it comes to practicalities, he can't figure out why I'd mind his sharing his office with his nontherapist wife, or his glancing at the cell phone. Even now that he understands the latter (he still doesn't grasp the former), he still expressed surprise the other day that it was such a sensitive topic to so many Babblers. I guess he thought I was unique and odd.
It's true he does a lot of short term CBT and doesn't always work with the relationship that much. And he says many of his other clients actually take calls during therapy so think nothing of his checking his phone. But even then, where the client apparently doesn't feel it's a sacred space, surely it's a sign of respect for a client to give them your full attention for the time they are paying. To glance at your phone says so very much to the person you're talking to. Which is true in any relationship, not just therapeutic ones.