Posted by gazo on March 20, 2007, at 9:28:44
In reply to a newbie in love, posted by gazo on March 19, 2007, at 16:26:10
I have to ask... what could be so bad if i did manage to get something to happen with him? I read about people succeeding at this and I envy them. Carl Jung had a relationship with one of his patients.. and some other prominent female analyst married one of her former patients. It can't always be wrong can it?
I mean, is it always transference? Aren't a lot of relationships tranference anyway?
I think it would be fulfilling one of the deepest desires I have ever had... I think many people get miserable afterwards because once they have what they want, they need to want something else. What would happen if you worked those issues out but still had a relationship with the T?
Oh god.
I read somewhere that love at first glance was just transference. I don't know if I believe that. It dehumanizes something about love feelings which are spiritual to me. I don't think you can put all of our emotions in a test tube. I have to believe that we sometimes recognize a kindredness in another... even before we get to know the whole person.
I don't believe in the traditional sense of reincarnation.. but I do believe in the idea that part of us continues on. I believe we are all made up of components of other people before us. So, for me, the recognition of that kindredness is a spiritual belief. Part of me recognizes part of him possibly. It's hard to determine. The concept of transference is more likely in this case, but I cannot draw myself away from this.
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