Posted by alexandra_k on October 14, 2006, at 8:49:53
In reply to Re: Wanting comfort » canadagirl, posted by Tamar on October 14, 2006, at 7:51:12
>He said he thought I knew that he doesn’t think it’s helpful to give me that kind of reassurance. (I didn’t know that; he’s never told me before.)
ah.
so there it is. it isn't that he doesn't care, it is that he thinks it will be bad for you if he tells you he does care. some therapists have this variety of therapy where they think it isn't part of their job description to comfort you it is part of their job description to help you build ego strength or whatever.
yeah, smack him over the head, i say...
or...
alternatively...
could you talk to him about WHY he thinks it is bad for you
and maybe you could tell him that a little bit of comfort might just mean that the hard stuff is easier whereas if he keeps going the way he is going he is just driving you away...
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