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Re: Wanting comfort » canadagirl

Posted by Tamar on October 14, 2006, at 7:51:12

In reply to Re: Wanting comfort » Tamar, posted by canadagirl on October 13, 2006, at 7:37:19

> I'm sorry to hear you're going through such a hard time.
> I've got one of those forgetful T's too and I'm just about ready to dump him. I know they have their personal lives, but there is really no excuse for not making or reviewing a few notes so they can keep up to date on us. I don't think it fosters a good connection, no matter how much we like them.

Yeah, it definitely gets in the way. And not knowing what’s going on with him means I have no sense of perspective on it, so inevitably I end up thinking it’s partly about me, even though he insists it’s not.

> You're NOT unimportant...talking about your needs IS important, whether he can fill them or not - the important thing is to talk about them. It's all part of the process. Here's a cyber hug for you too.

Thanks for the cyber hug. Yeah, I’d like to talk to him about my needs. He always seems to shut it down. I called him yesterday and told him I wanted reassurance: I wanted him to tell me he still wants to work with me. He said he thought I knew that he doesn’t think it’s helpful to give me that kind of reassurance. (I didn’t know that; he’s never told me before.) I said even if that’s the case, it doesn’t make me want it less.

Right now I just want to slap his head.




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