Posted by muffled on October 1, 2006, at 21:44:36
In reply to Re: Do you believe this? » muffled, posted by alexandra_k on October 1, 2006, at 19:49:31
> Yeah, I think you are right that I throw my t's off. I don't mean to. But I guess I do. Sometimes I don't know what to say... And sometimes t's find silence hard. So I try and think of something to say and the only thing that seems manageable is to talk about my week for a bit... And to talk about what I've been reading and stuff. I guess... It is a defence, yeah.
***Yeah. Proly you got good defenses to stay safe...
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> The sh*tpile of stuff...
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> I'm not sure how to get to that. I'm not sure how to talk about that. I'm really not sure...*** mebbe you could just start by talking bout stuff that triggers you. like people talking behind, and gossip, and exclusivity,and people saying you smart, things like that. Stuff that upsets you, and meebe that'll be a start in a corner of the pile, a place to begin and talk. Rather than talk bout inane type stuff. And its ok if you get upset, cuz THATS when you can process and learn stuff with your T. If you don't feel like talking bout something, then do it, lay it on the table and see what happens.
I find the best sessions usu. are a result of my behaving like an idiot sometime before......
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> I forgot to ask my t for her email address last week. So... You know what I'm going to do? I'm going to try and write something for her. And I'll read it to her. I'll try and make it fairly short and managable. But I need to figure out how to connect with her.
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***Mebbe don't worry so much her. mebbe just put some of the iside Alex on the paper, and see what she does with it.
Let Alex out, all her anger or pain or insecurities or confusion etc, whatever, let it come out.
See what happens.
Mebbe she a good T, mebbe not.
Good luck in it, whatever you manage.
Writing works well for me.
I write for myself, then mebbe edit slightly to give to my T. Often I don't edit at all.
Take care Alex, you a feisty little sweetie you are!!! :-)
Muffled
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