Posted by alexandra_k on October 6, 2006, at 17:41:48
In reply to Re: projective identification » alexandra_k, posted by littleone on October 6, 2006, at 0:33:22
> I've seen gardenergirl talking about projective identification before. I understand what she said and what it's about, but I find it hard to see what stuff of mine is that and what is another type of defense.
> I wonder how harmful it would truly feel to fully know about and own the negative aspects of oneself. I mean, I know this can be worked towards and achieved. But I wonder how harmful it would have been to know and own those things as we were growing up.i guess thinking of it as genes + natural and social environment -> thoughts / feelings etc -> behaviour. means that the badness is only in me because of the meeting of my genes and my natural and social environment. given that stuff was the way it was... the bad thougts were inevitable. it isn't my fault the bad is inside me. i don't know. this sounds hollow sometimes. i don't know what i believe.
> I understand what you said. But by the same token, she'll never understand if you don't keep explaining it to her further.
i can't afford to risk that much.
> Are you still going to write things out for her like you were thinking of doing?no.
> Can you see where your T might have smarts where you don't?
no.
like i said: she is a really lovely person who is trying to help me. she has a lot of qualities that i really value. but this isn't going to work.
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