Posted by sunnydays on September 22, 2006, at 7:36:35
In reply to Re: Blame - Trigger » Daisym, posted by alexandra_k on September 22, 2006, at 2:13:48
But people aren't collectively outraged about volcanos exploding because there would be nothing we could do to stop them if we wanted to. I think that it is very true that blame is necessary. Now, it may only be necessary as a stage, and later we learn to lift it, but the two choices for me right now are to blame my brother or to internalize the negative feelings so that I feel bad about myself. I need to go through a period of blaming my brother in order to get the negative feelings out and feel what it is like to not hate myself. I don't think there is another way to get those negative feelings out of myself, at least my therapist doesn't seem to think so. But I don't know if later I will stop blaming or not.
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