Posted by happyflower on July 3, 2005, at 19:26:47
In reply to Re: long post but it explains what I feel » happyflower, posted by Tamar on July 3, 2005, at 17:28:44
> I know it’s not much fun when husbands notice other women.
Ya, I hate to get jeolous! Hate it, Hate it!
Ultimately I believe most other women can't compete with me for my husband because we've been together for eleven years and I'm the mother of his children and also I'm amazingly good at [insert sex act here].
I have been married eleven years too, (good at sex too! lol) but you know some women like to pray on married men. I guess we have to trust that they will keep their thingie in the pants, and just look if they want.
> I think you do have to be able to trust your husband. And the fact that he has been pretty honest about his confusion over this woman is probably a good sign, I would think, even though it probably hurts. I think marriage is very hard work, but it’s pretty much impossible to do that hard work if people aren’t prepared to admit how they are feeling. I can’t think there are many marriages in which both partners look only at each other and never experience temptation.I agree, but it is so hard when you are the one that is threatened. I wish I could be more confident about my marriage, it is so hard especailly because I know this women, she is pretty, smart, and I can't find anything wrong with her other than she wants to sleep with my husband.
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> Yes, and therapy has a way of uncovering problems like this. Maybe it’s a good thing you’re doing therapy at the moment so you can have some support for getting through it.WEll I hope I still have my therapist right now, or I will be in deep cr@p!
> > I think you can still use the example, but it might come across better if you say, “It would be like telling a client with a past history of abuse that he is good at keeping his wife in line.” Just taking out the word ‘hitting’ makes it a little less emotive without removing the power of your comparison completely. Anyway, it’s your decision. And I think it’s a good idea to ask him to hear you out without interrupting.I will think about this some more, I want him to hear how hard it hit me, but yet I don't want him to get offended and miss the point.
> >> > Yeah, I tend to think it’s best to keep things short when there’s something major to discuss. It’s usually better to talk face to face so you can get all those visual cues that help the conversation along.
Good advice, as always! lol
> I’m sorry that you’re feeling let down by two of the people you ought to be able to trust. I hope they will both go on to prove that they are in fact worthy of your respect.
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> Thank you so much for helping me even when you are going through your own stuff. I really appreciate your support. :)
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