Posted by happyflower on July 3, 2005, at 19:13:45
In reply to Re: long post but it explains what I feel » happyflower, posted by Dinah on July 3, 2005, at 15:29:44
> Good grief. Of course you're angry with him.
Thank you Dinah for validating on how I feel. It is so hard to be mad at someone who I really like a lot. It kinda messes with your mind.
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> He not only suggested that he might lie, and you'd never know, but he tied it into the idea that your husband might cheat on you, and you'd never know. And how can you be so sure he didn't.
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> Geesh.Yup, how nice of him, AUUUGGHHH! Why not take all of my security away from me. I think I am going to bring a stuffed animal with me next session and say that this is my security object because it doesn't feel safe in his office. I am only kidding, lol Doesn't laughter help anger sometimes? :)
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> You've known your husband for years now. If you think he's telling you the truth, most likely he is. It sounds as if he's been very truthful about how he feels. Almost painfully truthful. But at least that gives you a chance to work together to solve the problem.I think I am right about this, but I guess my T might think there is something going on since he has started to not talk to me again lately. I don't know, I haven't really had problems like this in my marraige before.
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> Sometimes things enter a therapist's mind that really should stop before they issue from his lips. But sometimes they also screw up and blurt things out.
I guess I should give him a break, if this is the case, cause look what I did, ran my mouth and quit therapy. Now I would like to take my foot out of my mouth.> If he cheated on his wife, she wouldn't be able to tell. If your husband cheated on you, you wouldn't be able to tell. It calls into question your ideas about him as a moral human being, your ideas about yourself and your ability to determine reality, about your marriage and your husband's truthfulness.
You got it all in a nut shell! lol Plus he brought up termination in the same session. Not offically, but generally. I think he needs to take less time off because something fried his brain over vacation. lol
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> I think I'd point out that I'd prefer the focus be on helping improve your marriage, not on making the marriage appear shakier than it in reality is.
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> But I do think you can work through this.Thanks again, I hope I can work all this out. Life can be so hard sometimes.
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