Posted by Tamar on July 3, 2005, at 7:50:24
In reply to I quit therapy today, posted by happyflower on July 1, 2005, at 17:09:25
I’m sure he will take you back. I can’t see any reason not to.
There’s something about this whole story that I find quite uncomfortable: it’s that when he said he was a good liar he seemed to be contrasting himself with your husband. At least that’s the way I read it (maybe it didn’t happen like that). It seemed to me that you said your husband was a bad liar and your therapist responded with something like, “Well (unlike your husband) I’m a good liar.”
I was trying to imagine how I’d have felt if my therapist had said anything like that to me. I wonder if it would have been so upsetting if you’d been talking very generally without any mention of your husband. If you’d said you can always tell when salesmen are lying to you, and he’d then said, “Well, (unlike some salesmen) I’m a good liar,” maybe there wouldn’t have been such a strong contrast. It still would have been a pretty hard thing to take.
So maybe the immediate context of the thought of your husband was an issue for you? Or maybe I’m off the mark.
But I’m sure he’ll take you back because it does seem to be what people call a ‘therapeutic opportunity’.
Tamar
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